Ramblings on Marriage

I think when you get married, you believe life's going to be a fairy tale. You've found your Prince Charming and nothing else matters.

And then you go to work, and work beats you down. And you buy a house, and the bills stress you out. And you join groups and clubs at work, and they take time away from home. You join a gym, trying to maintain the body that you used to have, and that takes up even more of your time. Maybe you start a blog or get a myspace account and end up spending more time on the computer than you should. Before you know it, you're spending so much time and energy on your "obligations" that you forget to live. And it becomes very obvious that there are more factors at work in a marriage than just the love of a husband and a wife.

Kevin and I were watching our wedding video last week, and it made me so emotional to look at the two kids that we were, jumping in to life head first. We had very little income, no savings, no house, no real retirement plans, no idea what the future would hold, and at that point, no fear. In many ways we've come so far, and yet in some ways we're still those two kids.

Sometimes you forget how it felt when you first fell in love. Sometimes you say mean things to each other out of frustration, and you even do things now and then without realizing that you've hurt the person you vowed to protect and support.

And then again, there are times when life couldn't be more perfect. Yesterday (on a day where there was literally not one cloud in the sky), as I was eating a hamburger with Kevin and my parents in Galveston while watching the waves crash against the shore, I was very aware of how truly blessed I am. It's moments like that that make life worthwhile.

For what it's worth, I wouldn't change a thing.


"You come to love not by finding the perfect person, but by seeing an imperfect person perfectly."
--Sam Keen